Sometimes its a kick in the face.

Ya know those nosey people that always have something smart to say to you? And I don't mean smart as in intelligent but like sarcastic? Or those people that always have some kind of opinion that they think is right? Well I got to deal with on of those recently.

I was talking to a group of people, not necessarily my friends so much as people I know. I was telling one girl about Jonathan's dedication at my church when another loud mouthed snot decided it was time to chime in saying "Don't you think you should leave that option to your son to decide when he gets older?"

Well No actually I don't. I think that it was MY decision to make about whether or not I wanted to dedicate my son to the lord and to raise him believing in God. It was MY decision to dedicate him and make my promise to do my best in providing him with a community that loves him and cares for him and wants what's best for him and has the same beliefs as me. It IS my decision whether or not I want to teach my child or children about God and if you don't like it then thats your choice but I am doing what I know is right.

Now I understand there are people that don't believe in God, that don't practice my religion, and who do have different beliefs and I am not saying that those people are wrong. Its just not what I believe. My fiance was one of those people when we met. Until I introduced him to my Pastor he had a hard time developing a relationship with the Lord. Mostly because he didn't understand the word of God and no one took the time to show him. He wasn't given a choice growing up about what he wanted to believe. So know that he is older he is finding that religion is necessarily complicated. I am proud to be able to introduce to him a different relationship with God that he wouldn't have necessarily found on his own. I am simply offering my son the same.

There are people that think it should be each persons own decision to do so. Fine. When Jonathan is older he can and will decide for himself what he believes. Until then he will have my influence. I won't apologize for praising my Lord and savior to him. I won't apologize for believing that he is my heavenly father. I won't apologize for my religion.

It irks me that people think that their opinion of religion should count to everyone. It doesn't. If you don't choose to practice religion, or you just don't believe in my God, or you have whatever beliefs you have... What makes you any more right or wrong than me? Who are you to judge me? My mother had me baptised when I was 6 weeks old. I am thankful she did because when I was teenager I was baptised again 2 months before I was in a near fatal accident that almost took my own life. I know that God was there for me. He was doing his work in my life. Just like he does to other people. I do not go around forcing my beliefs on anyone. I am entitled to believe what I want. So little miss lady with the mouthy opinion... Next time you think you want to tell me how to raise my child, maybe you should think about how you would raise yours.

OH. MY. GAWD! *I say Gawd because I can't use the lords name that way... just cant do it*

Anyways... I have 85 days until I say I do... 85 DAYS!

I am excited so please do not take this the wrong way. I just feel, well, I feel unprepared! Here is everything I have to do... Ok or what I remember at least *don't judge me*

1. Take Dress for alterations... ASAP

2. Take Invitations to Post Office to get postage amount

3. Mail out invitations

4. Get shoes

5. Get passport *Im really slipping on this one*

6. Get the materials for the programs for Brandon's mom

7. Get the stuff for our escort cards

8. Get the materials for the candy buffet

9. Order Jonathans tuxedo

10. Order the flower girls gifts.

11. Pay the florist!

12. Make final payment to the wedding venue

13. Pay the DJ

14. Talk to Becky about photography and what Pics I want

15. Make a playlist and DO NOT play list

16. Make a must have photography list.

17. Order Sid's tux

18. Buy wedding day lingerie

19. Set up nail appointment for the day before the wedding

20. Find makeup artist or figure out how to do it myself

21. Finalize babysitter info for Jonathan for the week of honeymoon...

22. Get Brandons passport taken care of

23. Get marriage license

24. finish premarital counseling.

25. Buy ring bearer pillow

26. Finalize proof for Unity candle bought here!

27. Talk to pastor about the ceremony times.

28. get the little lights for the centerpieces

29. Finalize the menu

30. Finalize rehearsal dinner situation

31. finalize hotel rooms for guests

32. Find containers or bags for candy buffet.

33. Get Jonathans shoes.

34. Get the rehearsal dinner dress.

35. Bridal shower

36. Bachelorette party/ Bachelor party

37. Get the butterfly pin for Shan's bouquet.

And about a thousand other things... How does anyone survive this?? Seriously? But it helps that I have this guy to support me:

My lovely randomness

O.M.G Someone has gotten me hooked on ETSY!!!

I have recently purchased this unity candle set:

In red and silver.

I am also seriously considering buying our programs and escort cards from there as well as our ring pillow!!

I am in love! Seriously... Anyways... I can't wait to go home and play with this little guy:

ABC's

A-Age: 23
B-Birth date: November, 29, 1985
C-Chore you hate: Laundry!
D-Dog's name: Well we don't have one but we are going to get one and name it ranger.
E-Enter or Exit: Enter..and make everyone's heads turn
F-Favorite color: Pink
G-Gold or silver: White Gold
H-Hair color: Brunette
I-Instrument: mmm guitar
J-Job Title: Administrative Specialist
K-Kids: Have One and want more
L-Living arrangements: With the loves of my life my fiance and my son
M-Monkey or Moose: Moose..
N-Nicknames: Shay, momma, Princess, snuggs
O-Odd thing about you: I can't stand to have someone standing behind me on stairs... It freaks me out!
P-Pet Peeve: People who lie, backstab, and theres a few others
Q-Quote from a movie: "Alright that'll DO! I made a mistake coming here with you! I have heard of people faking orgasms but I have never actually witnessed it and it very deeply disturbed me." From forgetting Sarah Marshall
R-Right/Left Handed: Right handed
S-Siblings: a younger sister and a younger brother
T-Time you wake up? I get up at 5 am
U-Underwear: mmhmm I wear em
V-Veggie you dislike: PEAS!!! I can not stand them! Oh and Celery YUCK!
W-What makes you run late: My son
X-X-Rays: My hip, my knee, my foot and my wrist...
Y-Yummy food you make: Baked Spaghetti, stuffed shells, tacos, chicken
Z-Zoo Animal: Koalas!

Yep that pretty much explains it.

I recently ran across a blogger that posted about being a southerner at heart. I couldn't help but add to her post you can find hers here,

Here are my reasons I am a southerner at heart:

I love, love, love Sweet sweet iced tea. I prefer it over any other drink.

I hate snow. Ok I don't hate it but I prefer that it only sticks around for a short time.

I love southern values. In the south family is most important and old fashioned values are basically how I was raised.

I don't mind the heat. Now at night time I love me some A.C. but during the day I love being outside in the sun.

I say y'all. ALL. THE. FREAKIN. TIME.

I think that southern hospitality and the manners most southerners possess are absolutely perfect!

I absolutely adore! the charming southern places. Especially South Carolina and Georgia!

I love down home foods like collard greens and fried chicken. I don't care if fried chicken is bad for you. Give me some thick gravy to go with it! MMMMMM!!

I know Virginia is kind of on the fence but the way I was brought up was nothing above being southern.

Well Parenting isn't for everyone

So I have obviously been M.I.A. Not that there are so many of you that it is a big deal but still...

Anyways, my life has been a little more than hectic. Almost chaotic but not over the top yet...
With our wedding about 3 months away and almost NOTHING done *ok thats not true but I still feel like that* and everything else to deal with, I just felt overwhelmed.

I found out my Maid of Honor is going to be 6 months pregnant at my wedding. I had to track down and beat my sister to death to get her to comply and buy a dress. And I am starting school in July. All of this happened with the blink of an eye.

I have been working more than usual at work and spending less time with my baby boy so he is acting out (or at least thats what I am blaming his rambunctious behavior on). He has become this screaming little banshee that runs around acting like a nutjob from the 4th floor at the local hospital (thats where they keep our crazies). Now not only do I get to get showers and baths with toys floating around I also find cups, plates, a hair brush, a house key, and some other object that undoubtedly came from something important, in my tub. I have more sip cups than I am even sure what to do with and my little technician has managed to take them apart and lose the little plastic/rubber thing that goes in the lid to keep them from leaking... We are potty training because he hates wearing a diaper but he refuses to use his potty for anything other than dumping said sip cups into the little bucket thingy. I came in to find that he had a nice combination of milk and apple juice waiting for me. MMM yummy!

I had to fire my babysitter because well... She just wasn't cut out for the job. She was a great friend of mine but after she gave birth to her little girl she must have lost her mind. And while I am very sympathetic to new parents because I know that it is difficult, I will not allow someone to hit my child. NO ONE! NOT. EVEN. ME! So needless to say when I got to anonymous reports from different people of her spanking him for wanting to take a nap... I let her go. I handled myself pretty well considering. I did not accuse her of it I asked her about it. She told me that yes in fact she had spanked him because he wanted to go to his crib to take a nap and since she wasn't ready to put her baby down she wouldn't allow him and when he got mad she spanked him. I asked if he had done something out of anger that required a spanking she said no he just whined (which toddlers do just look here for proof!). I told her that I do not parent my son by spanking him and therefor she should not either. Her response... Well parenting isn't for everyone now is it? Are you f-ing kidding me? I mean really?!

I told her to leave and now am one friend less. I can't believe that some people really think it is ok to hit a child... I mean HIT a child. She admitted it and didn't even seem phased by the fact that I was clearly pissed. I found out that she had also been smacking his hands when he used his fingers to push food on his fork. FOR HEAVENS SAKE HE IS 19 MONTHS OLD!!!!!!!! He has no idea how to properly use a fork. He is learning. He does a great job but still he needs some help with things like spaghetti noodles. I mean DANG! I am 23 years old and still have to use my finger sometimes!!!! The day that it all happened he literally had a mental break down. He was crying and freaking out all day and everytime I tried to do anything he was attached to my hip. So I knew that he was going through some weird stuff.

It broke my heart knowing that I had subjected my baby to that. I should have known better. I couldn't have because she was a great friend and a great stepmom to her stepson or at least I thought... Apparently I was wrong about that. And her....

Right now my brother is watching him for me. Jonathan loves his uncle so much and is doing well considering. It doesnt make it suck any less.

Finally 20 months later!

My friend finally sent me my maternity photos... she was a bit of a slacker don't you think?